Summer Renaissance
…summer was great! Something like a summer renaissance. I spent a lot of time truly relaxing and reveling in my little bit of peace. Starting reading again, became more intentional about my mental and physical health, and being comfortable in my skin…shout out to Beyoncé for the inspiration! Summer owes me nothing! I soft launched Suburban Couture merchandise, bought a blow up pool, and really just enjoyed life.
Okay so listen…don’t fight me! I know I ghosted y’all but work was kicking my ass! So many changes were happening and while as hard as I dug my heels in the ground to keep out the chaos, it caught ya girl off guard, but I digress. Enough shop talk!
On the personal side, summer was great! Something like a summer renaissance. I spent a lot of time truly relaxing and reveling in my little bit of peace. Starting reading again, became more intentional about my mental and physical health, and being comfortable in my skin…shout out to Beyoncé for the inspiration! Summer owes me nothing! I soft launched Suburban Couture merchandise, bought a blow up pool, and really just enjoyed life.
The family trip this year was to Florida. We attended a wedding and were going to go to Universal Studios but due to a slight episode of panic, we decided against it. We still had a great time being out of New York and being able to see family and friends in person. My mom flew for the first time in over 12 years y’all! I made sure she was escorted from curb to gate and now girlfriend is ready to fly everywhere! I got to see my BFF, Dominique, and extended family for a beautiful wedding…shout out to Erin and Moe! I love that no matter how long it's been, the vibe is ALWAYS love and good shit.
I got to visit family in Connecticut. I hadn’t realized how much I missed my family until I got there. Calls, texts, and FaceTimes really don’t compare to being in the presence of your loved ones. I have never been one to take that for granted as I love my family. They are genuinely good people. We enjoyed freshly fried fish from the Cape, courtesy of Uncle Bern and Aunt Jean, and ended the evening with a family dance party. Being able to love on my family was amazing but what had me in my feelings the most was watching Sterling interact with his cousins. I don’t know how it happened, but Sterling truly came out of his shell this summer. He is maturing into such a beautiful soul. I cannot wait to tell you about the dramatic email exchange that almost had me pulling up somebody in full mama bear mode.
I want to leave you with this. Life is generous. In this new era of life, I’m realizing there are so many things I am capable of doing if I get out of my own way. Prepare to be sicka me!
Love and Light,
J
Friends…How Many Of Us Have Them?
Y’all know I want all of us to win. There is definitely room at the table for us all to eat!
friend- (n) person whom one knows and with whom one has a bond of mutual affection
Friends…How many of us have them? *singing in my Whodini voice*
Have y’all ever experienced a “friend” who always felt like they needed to one up you? Let’s say you just copped a cute ass Coach bag or fresh pair of 1’s and this friend says “oh well I just got a new LV and matching sneakers.” Why are some females like this? I’ve asked myself this question often as I’ve had several interactions like this in my lifetime. Not only is this is a turn off but it’s tacky. I love sharing my purchases with my friends, not to show off but to display my fly shit. The unspoken competition that has developed among women is so catty to me. The nice nasty attitudes and the passive aggressive comments they think putting “LOLs” or smiley faces at the end to make it okay, burns me up! I am extremely non confrontational and at my age I’d rather cut my loses. I just don’t have the energy.
Friendship is supposed to be an authentic experience where you feel comfortable being yourself. You shouldn’t have to worry about shady boots energy from someone who really isn’t down for you. My circle has gone through some growing pains over the last few years. I’ve connected with some awesome people as well as having to let go of some folks whose negative energy was weighing me down. I feel like I’m a pretty cool person and do my best to be a great friend. I don’t think it’s too much to ask for the other person to do the same.
My mom always told me some people are around for a lifetime of seasons while others are here for only a few. I know my worth as a friend and I value the friendships that I have. Adulting is already hard, you should have a circle that allows you to be you without jealousy or judgement.
I’m going to end of this note, I see a lot of people saying “no new friends” and to be honest that’s not the vibe I’m on. I’ve built some amazing friendships with women from social media. Women who, once we met, instantly clicked. I’m open to anybody who is genuine.
Y’all know I want all of us to win. There is definitely room at the table for us all to eat!