Friends…How Many Of Us Have Them?

friend- (n) person whom one knows and with whom one has a bond of mutual affection

Friends…How many of us have them? *singing in my Whodini voice*

Have y’all ever experienced a “friend” who always felt like they needed to one up you? Let’s say you just copped a cute ass Coach bag or fresh pair of 1’s and this friend says “oh well I just got a new LV and matching sneakers.” Why are some females like this? I’ve asked myself this question often as I’ve had several interactions like this in my lifetime. Not only is this is a turn off but it’s tacky. I love sharing my purchases with my friends, not to show off but to display my fly shit. The unspoken competition that has developed among women is so catty to me. The nice nasty attitudes and the passive aggressive comments they think putting “LOLs” or smiley faces at the end to make it okay, burns me up! I am extremely non confrontational and at my age I’d rather cut my loses. I just don’t have the energy. 

Friendship is supposed to be an authentic experience where you feel comfortable being yourself. You shouldn’t have to worry about shady boots energy from someone who really isn’t down for you. My circle has gone through some growing pains over the last few years. I’ve connected with some awesome people as well as having to let go of some folks whose negative energy was weighing me down. I feel like I’m a pretty cool person and do my best to be a great friend. I don’t think it’s too much to ask for the other person to do the same.

 My mom always told me some people are around for a lifetime of seasons while others are here for only a few. I know my worth as a friend and I value the friendships that I have. Adulting is already hard, you should have a circle that allows you to be you without jealousy or judgement.

I’m going to end of this note, I see a lot of people saying “no new friends” and to be honest that’s not the vibe I’m on. I’ve built some amazing friendships with women from social media. Women who, once we met, instantly clicked. I’m open to anybody who is genuine.

Y’all know I want all of us to win. There is definitely room at the table for us all to eat!